Thursday, July 23, 2015


In dealing with all challenges, here are five tips to keep you sane through the difficult times:

1. Do the best you can with what you have and where you are. You can't always make your situations disappear instantaneously. And you may not have all the answers in your desired time frame as to how to get to your resolutions, so just work from where you are, to the best of your ability. And make sure you acknowledge that you're doing your best.

2. Don't panic. It impedes your ability to tap into the wisdom needed to take proactive, solution-oriented actions, and it only worsens your circumstances because you end up making snap decisions from your place of fear.

3. Don't complain. What happened happened. It's done and will never be undone. It's best to only focus on how you're gonna transform the circumstances, which you can't do if you bury yourself in complaint (and blame). It blocks your fortune.

4. Stay appreciative. Focus on what's working, what's right, what you enjoy, love, and what makes you feel good in your life. Think about and talk about those things A LOT, and give thanks for them repeatedly. This keeps your mental energy on an upswing, keeps you hopeful, boosts your self-esteem, and allows you to stay open to receiving more good.

5. Don't give up on your desired outcome, no matter how jacked up things look. Grab your faith and keep it close. Rely on it. Use it to keep you focused.

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Tuesday, July 21, 2015


This is kind of a part 2 to a previous post from this year, where I spoke in detail about fear being your prison, and how, if it's not used properly, it can ruin your life. Today, I want to briefly touch on the good side of fear, the one that can put you on the path to victory.

Fear gets a really bad rap, pretty much daily. We're basically taught that it's our enemy, and it causes us a whole lot of pain and suffering. This is only true if you fail to see its benefit and don't learn how to use it to your advantage every chance you get.

Your fears are actually really important—catalytic, even. They're not meant to be ignored or avoided. In order to transform your problems, you need to allow yourself to fully acknowledge, embrace, and clarify your fears about them, because your transformative moves will be contingent on that detailed information. Once you're clear about your deepest fears, you'll be in a perfect position to take courageous actions that directly oppose them, ones that will initiate healthy resolutions, instead of ones that will compound your issues via knee-jerk reactions based on panic and confusion. Clarity is the first step in all transformation and resolution. Without it, you will be constantly fighting an uphill battle in your efforts to bring your challenges to a speedy close.

Whatever you're afraid of in your daily challenges, let that fear (or those multiple fears) be your friend, your guiding light to the other side, as you use them as tools to supply you with the insight on what kind of bravery or proactive moves you need to incorporate into your scenarios that will not only get you the proper solution, but also solidify your self-esteem in the process, as courageous and wise actions always do.

For more information about how I can help you embrace your fears and use them to your advantage, please visit HONOR THE SPIRIT.


Self-mastery isn't something you "arrive at," and then you know it all and are above it all. It's an every day, every-moment journey that takes very conscious effort. There isn't a day that I'm not working on myself, regrouping from setbacks, sorting through confusing and upsetting emotions, checking myself about my actions, intentions, true feelings (as opposed to the non-authentic ones I try to embrace that are easier to deal with because they require less self-reflection on my part), sometimes telling myself to have several seats because I'm "on one" (being a drama queen, hella judgmental, not minding my own business, lacking appreciation for my life, etc.), and making sure I take full responsibility for my undesirable situations at all times, even when I desperately wanna find someone else to blame. But at the end of the day, all this "effort" is for my own advancement, self-care, and peace of mind, and it's all worth it. By working out my daily kinks, I'm ensuring that I move through the day, and in my interactions with others, as my most authentic, comfortable self.

As a Self-Mastery Catalyst, my ultimate goal during my Life Mission and Life Challenge consultations, and through my poetry workshop, Poetic Breakdown, is to help you embrace YOUR self-mastery journey, to help you understand how tending to your best interest on all fronts in your life (honoring your spirit) is the key to developing the kind of self-esteem and self-worth that is impenetrable. Impenetrable doesn't mean you're exempt from making sure it stays that way; you'll need to "groom it" daily. But it DOES mean that you'll eventually get so good at putting your self-care at the top of the list that even when you have difficult moments, your self-esteem will be as solid as a bulletproof vest, so that when the "shots fired" by life hit you, though you may get the wind knocked out of you, and it may even hurt like hell, you'll be strong enough within yourself to get back up with confidence, and continue to pursue the life and peace of mind you really want and deserve.

If you're ready to cultivate self-esteem that's strong enough to keep those "life shots" from taking you out, then let's get to it! Sign up for a free introductory consultation here.